Becoming a man of God
We’re airing a very important Welcome Home show this week featuring a talk by Dennis Rainey who spoke recently at the Better Man event here in Orlando. He has been a champion for families for decades. I’d love to encourage you to watch this show particularly if you’re a father…or you know a father who would benefit from this important message:
The crux of the message was this: there are 5 stages of growth that a man can potentially go through…boyhood, adolescence, manhood, mentor, and finally, patriarch. Unfortunately, Rainey concluded that many men do not have the tools and strategies to move past the first couple of stages. If a man is not taught, guided, encouraged, and led spiritually, he will stumble and remain at various stages of immaturity and stunted growth.
I was moved by Rainey’s strong challenge to fathers to step up and be the men of God that He calls them to be. As the camera panned the auditorium, I noticed two familiar faces. Sean Pankalla (our own Current lady Carolyn’s husband) and his 14-year old son, Preston, were in the audience listening intently. What struck me most was that this dad had the wisdom and foresight to include his son in this event. Together, they had the unique opportunity to be exposed to teaching and insights from a Godly man like Dennis Rainey. I wondered about the father/son conversations on their car ride home.
Our society places great value on fathers and sons doing “manly” activities together…like fishing, camping, and sporting events. That’s fun, easy and super valuable for dads and their kids. But how many men go beyond the obvious to taking their sons to events that teach them how to be husbands and fathers? Events that encourage discipline and behaviors that will define them as future patriarchs of their families.
Families continue to break apart. Dads and moms find themselves as single parents. Marriage has been redefined by our courts. What does all this mean? How can we combat the disintegration of our families? The easy answer: fathers become the spiritual heads of their households. They posture themselves to learn, mentor and become patriarchs. And they teach their sons…and daughters.
Deuteronomy 6:5-9 “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down; and when you rise up.”
That’s pretty much all the time. I think Sean Pankalla is on the right track…and 14-year old Preston is well on his way to becoming a patriarch.